Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Spirit of Cancer

A dear friend of mine, who was recently diagnosed with breast cancer, asked me to speak about the "spirit" of cancer.  I'd like to speak about it because if you can recognize it, you may possibly be able to dispel it.
The Spirit of Cancer felt like a foreign presence in me.  Although minescule, it felt dark, disabling, and I felt as though I was not completely myself, in balance with myself or with life. It felt as though an energy within was working against me.  Similar to the feeling carried after having had an unresolved argument with someone, but more subtle.

 Although one may have cancer for years prior to discovering it, I did NOT feel it's presence until September 2009.  Once I learned to detect it's spirit, I was able to reflect back and recognize when it came into me.  I was in a head crunch at the time, splitting in two.  Going in opposite directions with my businesses, and personal relationship.  I was trying to compensate by being someone other than who I was, which brought me more agony.

When I think of what love is; patient (creating a space for one to just BE), very kind, allowing, soft, receptive and gentle, I realize I was living in the absence of it.  Not only by the pressure I was experiencing in my personal relationship, but my response of putting more pressure on myself.  

In "Conversations with God", Neale Walsch compared love to the color white saying something like this: White is not the absence of color, as many believe, but the combination/balance of all colors. Love is not the absence of feelings, such as anger, fearing hatred, but the combination of all feelings. How else can we understand compassion, if we have never experienced these feelings?

Through out my healing process, I learned to give myself time, nurture myself, pay attention to my needs and take extra time to feel and heal old as well as new feelings...feelings that is, that I thought I had already worked with!

Had I been able to keep the spirit of cancer outside my body, I believe I would not have needed the surgery. It would have remained contained.  Each time I went to the cancer center at the hospital or was around dear loved ones full of fear for me, the spirit returned.  Each time I went to a healing ceremony or did deep inner work on myself, it fled.

This was MY experience.  If you have an illness, apply what feels right for you. 

I send you all the love, support and healing from God/Godda that I can.

Sunday, August 15, 2010

Symbiotic Relationships


I recommend keeping up your outside interests when dealing with something overwhelming.  Getting into a new band "Ramblin' On" one week after discovering I had cancer, kept my spirits up, energy flowing, and helped me to remember that I have a whole wonderful life I'm living, and ahead of me. By the way, last friday I sang as a guest with the Midnight Special Band at the Dublin Carnival. It was so much fun!http://www.midnightspecialband.net/  - Guest appearance.  
      My greatest joy is helping and making others happy, simply by being me!  Have you heard of a symbiotic relationship?  It's my favorite. By just being yourself, others benefit from knowing you, and you from them.  For example, a tree growing beside a stream with roots in the water, give fish a safe place to lay eggs & make a home.  The fish, in turn, fertilize the tree by living there, enabling it to grow strong with proper nutrients.  One of my passions is singing.  I sing with joy and people (hopefully), listen with joy!  I also love being a spiritual coach; when I counsel I am not only helping them, but being inspired myself.  What a beautiful symbiotic relationship.  What type symbiotic relationships do you have?

Sunday, August 8, 2010

Time to Talk

I gave a talk in Frenchtown N.J. last week.  This is my outline...


1) Living a healthy lifestyle with a cancer diagnosis


F un, feel good about yourself, have fun watching funny movies, reading delightful books, socializing and laughing with friends. What can you add to this list?

U nderstanding, have patience with yourself. Pay attention to your feelings, acknowledge & honor them.

N urture yourself. Take time to take care of yourself. Prioritize you, just once a day!



2) Preventing the re-occurrence of cancer

D iet, Alkaline based. 80/20 (80 alkaline, 20 acidic). Digestion! Blake Sawyer Homeostasis  Protocol, 1-512-263-2420 or toll free: 1-877-488-7423, www.thehealthyprotocol.com, bsawyer3@austin.rr.com in Lakeway TX.
Jerry Brunetti 1-800-355-5313 www.acresusa.com (farming site, but he came through cancer, no surgery as far as I know). He's in N.J.
Tani recommends: http://www.youngliving.com/  #1066040  http://www.secretsofmothernature.com/tani 

I deal thinking “de-stress within stress”. Breathe, breathe, breathe.

E xercise, lite – yoga, Qui Gong, Tai chi, light aerobics, comfortably work up to your old exercise program, if it was intense.

T reat yourself – supportive people, groups & relationships.



3) Can we avoid cancer in the 1st place?

L ook at patterns, what is hurting or taking away from.


O utlook. If we can’t change our circumstances or environment, change our point of view. Simplify your lifestyle & home, spiritual honor. “What you possess, you are possessed by” Peruvian saying.

V alidate your feelings, acknowledge, do I want to do something about it? Anger…purpose to enable you to stand up for yourself. Cancer = what is eating away at you?

E xpansion, allow growth, try new things.


1 + 2 + 3 can = cancer free!


Thursday, July 22, 2010

Reflections

I've been reflecting over my experience with the Spirit of cancer, and my relationship to it.   I discovered that I can draw the spirit of cancer into my body several different ways; stress is the easiest way, poor diet, supressed feelings etc., but today I am speaking specifically spiritually and emotionally.  There were times when I felt the presence of the spirit of cancer within me, and other times I could feel it was clearly not in my body (that felt good!).  After each ceremony, I did NOT have the spirit of cancer in my body. I held this state of being for weeks with excellent self care and nurturing until - I was in the cancer care department of the hospitals, or around loved ones with a tremendous fear of cancer.  Let me explain...

In the Ancient Egyptian teachings we talk about our energy centers (chakras) being connected to other peoples chakras with whom we have relationships.  These are known as a, or life cords. The persons with whom we have the largest connections, deepest and most intense relationships are those with whom we share the largest energy cords. Naturally, the larger the cord, the greater the impact on eachothers lives.   My mother, to whom I am most connected, after loosing her father, sister, son and numerous relatives to cancer, carried the fatality of cancer within her.  No matter how strong I stood in my belief and understanding that I could heal myself and was cancer free, when I was with close family members, my chakra cords were open to receive, guard let down, and their fears became mine. For me to not receive these fears, I would have to have had conscious awareness that I was taking them in, and how to transmute them. As a magnetic person (I can explain this later, magnetic vs electric) I took in emotions around me.  So, the spirit of cancer vacilated in and out of me.  Present some days, others not. 
Conclusion:  I did what I felt I needed to do as a responsible adult, compassionate person and knowledge level at the time.  As we say in the teachings of the Ancient Egyptian Mysteries "Everyone makes the best decision they can at the time, given their knowledge, background and experiences".  Had I not made the choices I did, I would have been fighting an uphill battle with loved ones.  Now that surgery is over, my family is relieved, and I am making choices that are right for me, with the full support of my family (but not the medical practitioners).  I have lymphodema, and according to my lymphodema physical therapist, this is a lifelong condition, manageable with my attention. All is well, my spirits are UP, I'm healthy as an ox, and truly happy. Love to all!

Thursday, June 24, 2010


I'm doing well, bouncing back!  I seem to be over the "blues" of feeling bad, which lasted on and off for about 2 weeks.  Next week is my birthday.  Although it's a dark photo taken at my last show...not bad for turning 50 eh??! 

Today I will have my 1st day of physical therapy (I can't stretch my right arm out, very uncomfortable).  I've been receiving intravenous drips of vitamin C at the Woodlands, weekly.  I don't notice a difference yet, but Dr. D said I will.  The nurse, Kathy, said that the healthier I am, the longer it will take to notice a significant improvement. 
I'm very happy because my dear friend, Lotus Payer (mother of my daughters boyfriend, Josh), told me about "The Homeostasis Protocol" written by Blake Sawyer. I beginning to follow his protocol, and I highly recommend his work.  www.thehealthyprotocol.com

Friday, June 11, 2010

Cancer

Even though it's tough for me physically and emotionally (oddly enough, my experience reminds me of what post-partum depression would feel like), I keep moving on.  As Mom always said, "when the going gets tough, the tough get going"!!  I try to exercise a little every day, take all my nutrients, eat well and do something on my Health Improvement list which I posted earlier.
Tashina was beautiful on ice in her figure skating show, went to 2 proms, and has finished school for the year. Her Father Tony and Step-mother Mel flew out from Spokane W.A. to celebrate her show with us, we all had a wonderful time.   

I've joined a country western band "Ramblin' On" and we have our 1st debut tomorrow night.  My stage name is Tani Star.
I'm working on a website, writing a book, seeing clients, studying greater health and continuing with normal life activities.  My intention is to remember to slow down and take time for ME.

After close study of my pathology report and the consultation of 2 doctors, they agreed that the cancer was contained and remained within the lump. 2 other doctors, however, think it was beginning to grow outside the lump.  Either way, this is great news, considering there was an intentional 3 month waiting period between the bi-opsy and surgery on my part. A bi-opsy punctures a hole through the body into the lump, so that if cancer is present, it can run rampant. The 1st place it goes is into the lymph glands. Considering this, it's a miracle, combined with a lot of effort to change the odds. My intention was to prove that we can heal our body from cancer, and I feel comfortable knowing I've done so.
Although I am presently 100% cancer free as far as they can tell, cancer cells do live in our bodies.  Follow-up care choices are:
1) Chemotherapy and radiation, which destroys the immune system, but within 7 years, the body is completely restored.
2) Build up my immune system to fight cancer cells with vitamin C injections, healthy foods, many supplements, and take cats claw (in pill form) to un-mask cancer cells within my body.
Which would you choose?

De-stressed

Recovery has been more difficult than I expected, thus the delay in up-dating my post.  My right breast is swollen, leaking fluid and although I try to use my right arm, it is stiff.  I went in for a follow-up visit and Holly, my nurse, told that everything I am experiencing is normal.  She said it will take me 6-8 months to feel normal - this I did NOT expect!!  Apparently, they don't tell you important information like this pre-surgery.  My arm hurts when I try to stretch it, so I am going to start physical therapy.

As my study continues, I've learned that some of the things making my body a perfect environment for growing cancer were:
1)   low iodine, missing peptides, weak liver, acidic body...all of which I had! 
2)  Thinking and emotions out of balance, such as worrying or being in a para-sympathetic state (always "on").
3)  Above and beyond all, STRESS.  This and other emotions can change an alkaline based diet, into acidic within the body. Which, by the way, no disease can survive in an alkaline based body.
Life today is FULL of stress.  As Helene says, "even the life of a bag lady is stressful" I think that's funny, and true!  So I've learned that the key is to de-stress, with IN stress.  Within the midst of stress, I calm myself, take a few big breaths, slow my thinking down, and take a moment to enjoy something alive like a tree outside my window, an indoor flower, my pet or anything that makes me smile.

Monday, May 24, 2010

Chemotherapy?

Picture by my cousin Jojo  http://jojosjoie.blogspot.com/

Summer's on it's way, my favorite time of year! 
Good news, I'm now 100% cancer free!  However, my surgeon strongly recommends, chemotherapy followed by radiation. Does this make sense? I have a clean bill of health, why do they want to destroy my immune system with chemo? A strong immune system is mandatory to fight cancer and it's re-occurrence. The allopathic idea behind chemotherapy is the following:  It kills various cells throughout the entire body. Cancer cells are the fastest growing, but also the weakest.  The theory is that the healthy cells will be able to endure treatment, re-build themselves and fight the cancer cells. "There has been no progress in curing cancer in conventional medicine for 50 years" says cancer survivor Suzanne Somers, in her new book Knockout. According to my conventional Dr., 30 - 40% of women who had surgery but did not follow up with chemo, were diagnosed with cancer again within 5 years. My questions are what were their eating lifestyle, stress level, living cancer free education, attitude and exercise habits?
It's taken me 50 years to build up my health to a level of excellence (those of you who know me, know that I have a high energy profile), why would I want to break it down intentionally?

I'm willing to take responsibility for my body, keep it vibrant and a hostile environment for cancer. I am working with the Woodlands clinic http://www.woodmed.com/  to take natural chemo agents, continue building my immune system and take nutrients allowing my body to recognize cancer, such as cats claw recommended by chiropractor Dr. Linda Tyrie in Allentown.

There are particular environments within the body, spirit and emotions in which cancer flourishes, and other environments to which it is not attracted.  For every ones benefit, I'll be posting these.
I'm recuperating, very sore in my entire breast and 1/3 of the way down my arm. It's taking me longer than I thought to recover from surgery!

Friday, May 14, 2010

Recovering

The best way to heal, my friend Adrienne said, is not from doctors, the foods you eat or amount of exercise, but from the warmth and love that comes from beloveds being there and doing "it" with you! "It's not the casserole, it's the company" says Dana Guerra.  People say I look better than expected, and I attribute it to my full schedule morning till night with dear friends helping about the house, massaging my stiff back and shoulders, bringing food and dining with me.  I am sore and swollen but my spirits are held high by laughter, care, sweet conversation and a bright outlook everyday. 
My achy body led me to a quick visit with doctor today, who told me "stay inside that surgical bra 24-7, and keep moving that arm" -ouch!   Still uncomfortable, I went for a short walk and did a little Pilate's yoga.  Felt good. 
Immediately after surgery, Dr. Desai told my family that I would require chemotherapy and radiation, starting with chemotherapy first.  Six days later his nurse, Holly, happily told me that further lab results showed absolutely no cancer in the lymph glands (which is the first place cancer begins to metastasize ), or any where surrounding the lump!
Tomorrow I Have an appointment with Dr. Di Martino at the Woodlands clinic.  My pathological report has been forwarded to him, so I'm interested in the protocol he will recommend.  Some of you have begun to pool money together for me, as herbal support is very costly. Thank you immensely!

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Surgery results

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!

I was in extremely good hands for an excellent surgery and came through with flying colors! I was pleasantly surprised at not only how competent everyone was, but how kind and caring they were as well.  Dr. Desai had previously marked my body where he was going to make the incision. In consideration of the outfits I wear on stage when singing, he drew the line to the outside of, but close to the lump, balancing surgery efficiency. My experience: 

  • The pre-surgery assistants were kind and helpful.  They made everything pleasant.

  • My mother Shirley and daughter Tashina were with me until a few minutes before surgery.  Tashina left to get ready for her Prom!  Mom met my brother Dar and father Samir for lunch at a nice restaurant.  It put my heart at ease to know everyone was doing something nice.

  • I had a few minutes to myself and took the time to look around the room with my intuitive eye.  I saw the spirit of everyone who had said "I can't be there with you physically, but I'll be there with you in spirit", my spirit helpers, guardian angels (actually, the room was packed!) and to my surprise, the strongest presence was archangel Gabriel.  When I got home I looked Gabriel up, and the message was "It's time for you to assume your leadership power and position, and lovingly guide others".  This was interesting as I found several of the assistants open to alternative medicine!

  • Meanwhile, anesthesiologist Dr. Hayward was more caring than I expected (I expected competence, which everyone had).  He put me at ease and I went into surgery happy as could be...with a little help!  Once in the surgery room, I was soon unconscious and the next thing I experienced was waking up from a heavenly dream saying "Oh, I forgot I was in surgery today". In this altered state, I saw people as energy fields for a few minutes. I noticed in particular, the anesthesiologist and a nurse, were emanating a tremendous amount of caring energy. It made me happy to know that I had been in genuinely caring hands. (In my heavenly dream, my girlfriend Adrienne and I were doing our usual thing...philosophizing and theorizing.  As thoughts are things, these ideas were manifesting as we were speaking). Adrienne and I are childhood friends from infancy, our fathers did research together at Lehigh University, and our mothers taught together in the Palisades school district.

  • Returning from the recovery room, Lars, Dar, Mom & Dad met me in the hallway before I even got to my resting room, what a treat!  Kisses, laughter, a bit of food, we were all feeling better being together again (although Mom was concerned about how pale I looked).

  • The doctor pulled out 5 lymph glands because 3 were swollen and blocked, so he wanted to check them.  None had cancer - yea!

  • On home, rest, sleep...

  • The 1st day home I rested, watched "50th Anniversary of I Love Lucy" and laughed, sat outside to take in sunshine and nature, and noticed something unique.  The evening before surgery there were specific uniform shapes in the clouds like VVVV, as if to say everything is going as planned and is synchronized.  The evening after, I saw a double rainbow, something I've never seen before.  Wow, what a special message for me!!

  • Your prayers, healing and good intentions worked!!!  I got it ALL!!!
Today, Mothers Day, I got my wish. I was able to join my whole family (all 10) for Mothers Day brunch - happy Mama! Sat outside with my mother and daughter, then came home and watched more funny shows.
My friend Sherry made a schedule for people to fill out to come over and help me this week.  I'm so grateful to you Sherry, and every one who is helping out!!
More soon.

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Surgery

Ahh, finally finished my grant application!  Wow, what an effort.  Wanting to send it in so I can simply relax next week, we just spent 3 hours figuring out how to make a 4 minute clip of a 20 minute meditation I recorded last year, and will send it all in tomorrow morning!
I register at St. Lukes Hospital in Quakertown at 10 a.m. tomorrow,  have my 1st injection at 11, and surgery begins at 1.  Dr. Desai's surgeries typically last 2 - 2.5 hrs, my recovery 1 hour,  about an hour to stabilize, and home after that!!  With the assistance of my friend Cheyenne http://www.healthheartsoul.com/ I've asked my spirit to be very present during the procedure, and to make sure everything goes well :) I'm happy now.
Angels will be at my side, as will your thoughts and prayers, keep them coming.  A smooth operation tomorrow, great assistance, speedy recovery, then better than ever!

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Incredible!

Your support has been incredible!! An amazing journey.
Here's my thinking: They'll remove the lump in 2 days, and get the results in 2 weeks.  If it has cancer cells, it's a good thing it's out!  If the cancer cells are dormant, it's medical proof that everything we did worked (I said WE, because it's been my effort, your prayers & healing, and Creators power - together).
What's amazing to me is I've learned to be peaceful and enjoy life in the present moment, no matter what's going on.  During the course of my cancer experience, just at a time when I'm to be laughing relaxing and doing LESS, I discovered that healing cancer is time consuming, my grant application opened up and is due right after surgery,  my bills became higher, I lost my child support, and was just informed my health insurance expires 3 days after surgery (it's so much that I'm laughing right now!). 

So I learned that "what" is going on doesn't matter, "how" it's going on does.  I feel loving every moment I can (this includes kidding around with insurance people on the phone, receptionists and tellers, etc), taking in the beauty of nature each time I'm driving to an appointment, and soaking in YOUR care and positive thoughts all the way down through my toes...it feels so incredibly good to be inside me right now!

Yesterday - What a Mothers Day Gift!

Friday, April 30, 2010

Thermography

I spoke with my Dr. Helene Leonetti, about thermography http://www.tdinj.com/ as a possible reliable test. She said it is not recognized by traditional medicine YET, although very reliable and can detect cancer many years before a lump appears. She is adamantly opposed to mammograms, as they radiate the breast, causing cancer. Thermography is an alternative to mammograms. She said that I'm going to have to make the sacrifice and take the surgery, but as Paula Johnson says, "If they go in and find nothing--they have found nothing-- which is a proof of its own!" So we'll see! Surgery is scheduled for May 7th, but the lump diagnosis will take 2 weeks. Ah, se la vie!